I have yet to meet the perfect parent. I am not now, nor will I ever be that mom. My kids will get in line to tell you the honest truth I’m not. That being said, I’ve tried (and failed) to be as good of a mom as possible.
My mom worked full time and occasionally worked a 2nd job. I think she hoped I’d go to to a 4yr college and “make something of myself”.
A surprise to her, and myself, I became a mom 11 days after my 22nd birthday. All of a sudden I was a stay at home mom. I had no idea this was what I was going to do. I didn’t realize this was even an option.Not only was I staying home, I decided I was going to breastfeed my daughter. That was a big step for me because I didn’t know anyone who had ever nursed a baby. I was completely clueless.
I was able to nurse all four of my kids, the last being the longest. He went until he was about 27 months old. It was a very natural weaning and it worked for both of us.
I never cloth diapered. I tried, and it was about the time deliveries of cloth diapers were starting up. It just wasn’t for me. I was all thumbs.
I did make a lot of baby food from scratch. Again, never having been taught how to do any of this stuff, it was hit and miss for me.
Now, 20 years later, I have a daughter who is graduating from college tomorrow after only 3 yrs, a daughter who is going to Iraq this summer to teach English (she went to India 2 years ago) and is getting a degree in Linguistics, a son who is having a great year in baseball and finishing up 7th grade and my youngest who is in advanced classes as a 3rd grader!
My house is never in perfect condition, even with two of my girls gone. There are toys strewn about, dishes on the counter, bikes in the yard, but I’m ok with that. My home is well lived in! My house is cozy, even though it’s mostly messy.
I’m me, a single mom who is trying to do the best she can with what she has. This Mother’s Day weekend, I’m going to spend it being the proudest mom ever as I watch my beautiful daughter get her college degree!
Happy Mother’s Day!