I met Amy through the numerous Twitter parties we attend. We kind of have this thing for Twitter. Some people call it an addiction, we just call it love! I can't really think of anyone on Twitter who's made me laugh harder than she has!
Amy blogs about the things she loves at As The Bunny Hops. This includes (in no particular order) travel, shopping and making ridiculously complicated cupcakes. She can also be found far too often on Twitter and ocassionaly updating on Facebook.
Keeping score has it's place. In sports. In games of scrabble. I'm pretty sure Mimi would say it's vital in Fantasy Football.
But there's a place keeping score doesn't belong, and that's in friendship. I can't say I've never kept a friendship score. I can't even say I never do it now. But it is something I try to avoid. And I've been so much happier-and I think a better friend-since I stopped keeping score.
What do I mean by keeping score? If you know how many times you've hosted your friend as opposed to her hosting you. If you know who bought the last five lunches. If you know the difference in prices between the last few Christmas gifts you've exchanged. Those mean you're keeping score.
I've certainly driven myself a little batty in the past, watching a friend who borrowed money and hadn't paid it back treat herself to something I couldn't afford. I've wondered why I was the one who was always calling or inviting someone over and I've let myself feel resentful in the past. Then I had to ask myself why. Why did I loan money in the first place? Why did I invite someone over? It was because I cared about them and wanted to help them out. Or I wanted to spend time with them because we have fun together. I wanted to be a friend.
Now when I give a friend money it's just that, a gift. If I buy lunch it's because I wanted to buy lunch. I don't expect to have things reciprocated in the same way. If you're my friend it's because I find value in our friendship and that's more than enough for me. Perhaps you always short on cash but you can make a killer blueberry pie (and when you're baking you always make an extra one for me). Maybe you don't really want to entertain in your home but you're always ready to drop anything and be there for a friend in need. All of these things have value, as do so many other things that I couldn't even begin to list them all. And there's really no point in trying to list them all, anyway. I refuse to keep score...
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